Conversations with "PHAMLI": Lovgistics 101

PHLOwers in BLOOM

May times when in relationships, we oftentimes forget that we are not in them alone, and there is another WHOLE person involved that has their own feelings, ideas, opinions and set of ways of doing things. We have to step outside of ourselves and learn to accept the other person and all that they have to offer as we expect them to do for us. Everything will not always be our way, and vice versa. Once we are able to think of the other person more than ourselves, we can learn new ways of nurturing our relationships so that there are no holes and gaps.

As many people prepare for Valentines Day, I challenge you to aspire to build a healthy, lasting and enjoying relationship filled will love, enjoyment, peace and love that will last beyond February 14. In the midst of your planning something Special, take time to write some of the goals that you have as an individual and those that you desire with your special person. Remember, no matter how much we "DO US", those that love us would like a piece of our time, hearts and minds as well. Whether its quality time, conversation, having fun together, etc...Do it. Make it a point this week to tell them and show your significant other how special and important that they are to you. Step out of yourself and have a BALL! Enjoy yourself, your week and eachother.

An excerpt from

"Lov"gistics 101 (Instructions to - learn it, Apply it and Preserve it)

Sometimes you have to sit down,

and take a deep breath, inhale what you want to change

and exhale making changes

relax for a moment, and at that second visualize what you want to happen

where you would like to be, and what you want to become

Start taking inventory of thyself, and if need be change your mind set

Organize your thoughts, reveal your desires, move with action

correct your mistakes,

and pick apart the causes and the effects

or better yet, how the decisions to delay your growth may affect

the ones that you love, who require you to go an extra step

Truly you know that love is an action word, often times doubling as an adverb

None the less, we must not forget from life's experiences what we've learned

You must apply the wisdom that we've heard, whether from an elder

or an inexperienced nerd, as long as the shoe fits, it works

and never act as if you have forgotten your worth,

exposing yourself to meaningless conversations filled with negative words

Many of us carry note books, filled with notes that we took

expressing feelings, during times when our experiences were character building

and the benedictions and outcomes of how we got through those turbulent life streams

Carrying bags full of broken dreams, some in tact, but most shatter kicking and screaming

we've even cracked our own jokes, about being provoked to break them on our own

Walking around unfamiliar outskirts, growing bitter, guarded and alone

Enjoying the voice of "RITE NOW" lovers giving us unhealthy sweet strokes

Finding a comfortable place in boxing rings with friends

learning right jabs and left hooks, that you can't wait to use on your next victim

entertaining ideas, about being a playa, but in your heart that's not how you see your future

You begin to notice your traveling patterns through life,
and how you've conquered pain induced sleepless nights

Praying for "The One" and Better Times,

straying away from detrimental soul times

Closed up shop, cuz your heart gets cool then burns hot

then you find yourself becoming someone that you're not

and you've had to take a chance, to table romance

until on your own two legs without staggering you could stand

and no rebounding, that just leads to disappointment

So your bad decisions, pay attention before you make them

and willing hearts don't start fires, so use your discernment before you take them

and never love someone so much, that you can't see straight

and when you know you're being played, bow out the game with grace

and choose the words carefully that you allow into your ear gate

You seek balance, but call it A CHALLENGE?, cuz you're out of sink with the FATHERLINK
and when you're tired of being tired, that can't be the only time you allow HIM to speak
a beautiful bird can't fly long on one wing

and without God's strength your changes won't be lasting
you do understand that His love is all you need to be COMPLETE?

You must clear your thinking pallets of old files full of

miscellaneous jar gin, destructive thoughts and failed strategies

replacing them with positive intentions and hopeful pedigrees

It's important to specify the position of your partner

placing them in a place that YOU WILL NEVER FORGET

set apart, untouched and protected for you to enjoy as you see appropriately fit

Crown them proudly with significance

Making emotional arrangements accordingly
disciplining yourselves to be present, open and willing

to Listen, to Love, and to Enjoy with authority

This is your blessing!

Don't move forward too quick, nor shoot without direction in the dark,